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Well, welcome back to another episode of The YouSchool podcast. I am your host, Scott Schimmel. And what we're doing through these episodes is walking through the 30 critical questions to build a meaningful life, I see these as building blocks. Almost an alternative checklist, in contrast to maybe what we would typically think is important to growing up. And not saying that those things aren't important things like life skills, getting a diploma, knowing how to drive, knowing how to talk to someone at a cash register, those are important life skills. However, what we're trying to do is highlight these other skills, these other questions that every kid needs to be able to answer in order to be fully prepared. And our premise is these questions can be answered, they can be answered by teenagers, they can be answered by adults, it's never too late. And they ought to be answered. The problem is, most of us haven't felt what the questions are. And secondly, we haven't given these questions as an expectation to answer yet. So we might ask a kid, what are you doing next, in terms of post high school plans? And that's an important question. But these other questions like today's where we ask this question, how do you learn best? What we're talking about is helping young people understand their personal learning style. Now, when you're little, I think, like, preschool and below, learning is just second nature. I remember being on a walk with one of my kids, and I was pushing her in the stroller. And it was right at that transition to where she started to walk. And we were, I don't know, a mile and a half away from the house. And all of a sudden, she starts freaking out, wanting to get out of the stroller and walk on her own. And I'm thinking, No, we got to get back home that we're 20 minutes away, 25 minutes away, if I walk fast, and you can't get out. So she anyway, she got out. And what she started to do is look at every single leaf flower, Roly Poly snail, and we were on that street for 45 minutes, while while she's learning, it's just second nature. And then the transition to school, kindergarten and elementary school, and learning shifts to being something that you have to do, you have to go to school. And that's a that's a not so subtle shift to a kid. Then when we talked about middle school years and high school years, learning becomes something you're supposed to do, you're supposed to do it, you have to do it, you're supposed to do it. And often by that time, you see a divergence, some kids are on the track, they're learning, because that's what you're supposed to do. And they're being obedient, good soldiers, good students. And yet underneath that they see learning as a means to an end. It's the current contest to win. The other path, the other group of students have become jaded by this sense that I have to learn supposed to learn, you got to go to school, the joy has been sucked out of it, the choice has been taken from it. And they're really shut down to learning. Learning now equals something I don't want to do. And they can dig in and be sometimes passive, aggressive, and sometimes aggressive, aggressive. I refuse to learn, I refuse to be engaged. And what we see then as parents, and as educators, is a deep concern that we have for kids, we want them ultimately, to own their learning, to be in charge of it, to recognize how they learn best, and have energy towards it. And the components we're talking about are self awareness and self direction. That we would hope students understand themselves and are able to manage themselves be self directed to manage and get what they need and how they need it. Now, here's something to reflect on. Learning is what matters. And since we all learn differently, it's important to become aware of how you learn best. We can't just depend on teachers or parents to spoon feed us just the way we want.
I had a key moment of learning about my own learning, and it took a long time it took till after graduating college In getting my first job, and I was maybe six to nine months into my first jobs, big, large nonprofit, that fortunately had a very high value for learning and development. That's one of the reasons why I was drawn to it. And I, you know, half a year or more into the job, I was reflecting one night kind of criticizing the organization I worked for, and I was thinking, where's the training? I don't really know what I'm doing. And I don't like that feeling. And yet I look around and there's no classes, there's no track to take. There's like there wasn't school. There's no one who's shown me what to do. There's no one who's telling me which books to read or which training to go through. And so I did, maybe what you would learn later on is what millennials do. I was maybe the original millennial. And I fired off an email to my kind of two or three levels of supervision above me. It was very harsh. Where's the training? What Why aren't you teaching us we don't know what we're doing, I need more direction. And I had a boss of a boss, that I had a good relationship with a mentor of mine, who rather than emailing back, called me on the phone straight away. And I hopped on the phone, he said, I got your email. And what he told me, I don't remember the words, he said, but the message to me was grow up. This is your life, you're in charge of your learning. There's no mommy or daddy or teacher here, you have all the opportunity to learn. Now, do it, choose it. Someday, when you look at her kids, they're going to have bosses that are going to require them to learn without any handholding, without any clarity without any clear expectation. And what we hope, I hope is that my kids would want to learn. And maybe because they're committing themselves to a cause something a problem that's bigger than just them. And they want to become a part of the solution, they feel motivated, to, to grow, to get better, to get more knowledgeable, to get more resourced, to be able to have value to solve that problem. And there's no one there to tutor them, they're gonna have to figure this out for themselves. That is a key part of living a meaningful life where a life isn't just about being happy, or comfortable, or maybe personally fulfilled, but a life where you're giving yourself away. A key element of that is learning. I want my kids to want to learn and take the responsibility to do so that's what happens. And why it's so important, even when our kids are really young in elementary school, to have conversations with them about their learning style, how they learn best. Next week, we're going to get into more of the topic, interviewing someone is expert on helping students understand their own learning style. But here's what can happen. Here's what I've seen in my life. This is what I'm seeing glimpses of in my kids lives. If we can have engaged conversations with our kids with students about learning style, they will become more self aware. And if they become more self aware that and intends to translate into personal motivation, internal drive, and if we have conversations with them, and ask them questions about what will you contribute someday? What do you have to give? What problem are you going to solve? How are you going to invest your time and your energy? If we layer that into the conversations we have with them about college and their future? And where they're going to live someday? They're going to have an internal sense of that's important in life. So the big question, how do you do this? How do you help a student own their learning? Again, we're gonna dig into that next week with the guests. So stay tuned. And I'll leave you with this key foundational element for being prepared to build a meaningful life is knowing your own personal learning style, and your ability and willingness to manage your own life to get what you need. So you can learn best, and the subtext for everything we do and you school. And our message to students is this is your life. It's your life. And in this case, learning is up to you. It's no one else's responsibility. So that's the question that we want to inquire and engage our students with. How
do you learn best? What do you find out about yourself? What are you learning about what you need to be at your best to grow? So we'll be back with that really important interview next week. Thanks for joining us.
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