Ever feel like your kid is just going with the flow, making decisions based on what’s easiest or what others expect? That’s normal—but it’s also why so many young people struggle to find a path that actually fulfills them. In this episode, Scott Schimmel shares how parents can help kids clarify their personal values so they can make decisions with confidence, avoid regrets, and build a life that aligns with who they truly are. 💡 What You’ll Learn:

✔️ Why most kids struggle to make decisions that align with their true values

✔️ How external pressures—peers, parents, society—shape decision-making

✔️ The science behind values-based motivation (Self-Determination Theory)

✔️ Three practical ways to help your kid identify what really matters to them

🔑 Key Takeaways:

1️⃣ Ask the Right Questions – Instead of directly asking, "What do you stand for?", use indirect questions like: What are three things you’d never give up? What’s something you’re willing to fight for? What do you admire in others?

2️⃣ Teach the Difference Between Intrinsic & Extrinsic Motivation – Research shows kids who pursue intrinsic goals (growth, impact, relationships) are happier and more successful than those chasing external rewards (money, status, approval).

3️⃣ Help Them Align Actions with Values – Reflect on when they feel most energized vs. drained. Those moments are clues to what truly matters to them. 👀 Resources & Next Steps:

📖 Read our latest blog on helping your kid define their identity: https://www.theyouschool.com/blog/fundamental-values

 💬 Join the Conversation! What’s one value you want to pass down to your kid? Drop it in the comments!

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