More Than Their Achievements: Helping Kids Build True Self-Worth
In this episode, Scott Schimmel shares a powerful moment with a group of high school seniors that reveals a deep truth about how kids tie their self-worth to achievement. When one high-achieving student admitted he only felt good about himself after winning, it opened the door for others to share similar struggles. This episode explores the dangers of outsourcing self-worth to accomplishments and how parents can help their kids develop inner self-appreciation.
Key Takeaways:
đš The Achievement Trap: Many kids feel only as good as their latest success, leading to stress, insecurity, and burnout.
đš Why Self-Appreciation Matters: Research shows that valuing oneself beyond achievements fosters resilience, motivation, and mental well-being.
đš How Parents Can Help:
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Model It: Say out loud what you appreciate about yourself. Kids need to hear this from you!
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Ask the Question: Regularly ask your child, "Whatâs something you appreciate about yourself?"âand then let the silence do its work.
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Catch Them in the Act: Notice and affirm their kindness, perseverance, or creativityânot just their accomplishments.
Try This Today:
Ask your kid, âWhatâs one thing you appreciate about yourself right now?â If they struggle to answer, donât worryâjust keep planting the seed!
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